Exceeding Client Expectations Is the Wrong Goal

Before we dig in, let me clarify one important thing: exceeding client expectations is a good thing. Creating thoughtful moments of delight is a wonderful way to make clients feel valued and respected, and can turn a great client experience into a memorable one.

However, there’s something we need to get right first. Before asking how we can exceed our clients’ expectations, we need to ensure we’re consistently delivering on what we’ve already promised.

Because when we don’t, those thoughtful extras may not delight our clients at all. Despite best intentions, they can actually make a disappointing experience feel worse.

When exceeding expectations backfires

Several years ago, I hired a business coach for a six-month engagement. I genuinely adored her. She was incredibly knowledgeable, and I respected her expertise. Unfortunately, working with her did not go as expected.

Our agreement included bi-weekly coaching calls, but she regularly canceled them at the last minute. I was usually told someone would follow up to reschedule, but that rarely happened.

Instead, I often had to chase her or her team to rebook the call. By the final month of our engagement, I had four calls squeezed into four weeks simply because we were trying to fit in all the sessions I was still owed.

I was also supposed to receive immediate access to her online training program when we started working together. Despite multiple emails to her team and mentioning it directly on one of our calls, it took several weeks for me to finally receive access. And despite raising my frustrations more than once, there was no meaningful improvement or change.

Then our six months came to a close. There was no offboarding. No thank you for our time together. No request for feedback about my experience. But about a week later, a large gift basket arrived at my door. It was easily worth $200 or more, no small gesture.

I should have been delighted. It was beautiful. But instead, it only amplified my frustration. All I could think was: I didn’t need a gift basket. I needed you to deliver on what you promised.

Delight can’t compensate for a broken promise

That gift basket didn’t erase six months of friction. If anything, it made the disconnect more obvious and brought all that frustration right back to the surface.

Here was a business willing to invest significant money and resources into an impressive final touch, yet throughout our engagement, they repeatedly dropped the ball on what they had promised to deliver. The gift didn’t feel like an expression of exceptional client care. It became a tangible reminder of where I wished that care and attention had been directed instead. And this is where I believe our obsession with exceeding expectations can lead us astray.

We’re frequently encouraged to overdeliver. Surprise and delight. Give clients more than they expect. Find ways to create those memorable “wow” moments that turn clients into loyal advocates.

There’s nothing inherently wrong with any of that. But exceptional client experiences aren’t created by piling delightful extras on top of promises we haven’t reliably fulfilled.

Get the promise right first

I believe there’s an order of operations to exceptional client experience:

Promise → Delivery → Consistency → Delight

First, get clear about what you’re promising your clients through your offer, your sales process, and the experience you’ve told them they can expect. Then make sure you can actually deliver on that promise. Consistently.

Create the processes and operational capacity to make that level of delivery your standard. Then look for opportunities to exceed expectations. Because delight should add to an already strong client experience. It shouldn’t be used to make up for a disappointing one.

This doesn’t mean everything needs to be perfect. Things will go wrong. Calls will occasionally need to be rescheduled. Deadlines may sometimes be missed.

Great client experience isn’t the absence of mistakes or oversights. It’s having the foresight and systems to respond when something inevitably goes wrong.

If my coach occasionally needed to cancel a call but someone from her team immediately reached out to reschedule, my experience would have been very different. The cancellation wasn’t the real source of friction. Being left responsible for making sure I received what I’d already paid for was.

That’s the difference intentional client experience design can make.

In client experience, more isn’t always better

The desire to exceed your clients' expectations can easily become another way that you end up chasing client happiness as a founder. You start asking, What else can I give them? How can I impress them? What more can I do to make them happier?

But sometimes the best thing you can give your clients isn’t more. It’s reliability. It's clarity and transparency. It’s following through. It’s making sure the experience you deliver actually matches the one they invested in.

Every time a client chooses to invest in your product, program, or service, you’re making them a promise. And delivering on that promise isn’t exceptional client experience. It’s your baseline.

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Read a related article by Katrina Scarlett:

Stop Chasing Client Happiness (Design for It Instead)